Nov 14 2009
You Can Improve Break Up Recovery
So how do you improve recovery from a break up?
The trick is to get back together.
Most couples split for silly reasons. With some good communication they could overcome their problems and be happy.
You first need to decide if you want to get back with this person. Forget about what they want for a moment and concentrate on what you would like. Once you are certain, you will be much more convincing as you persuade the other person to give you another chance.
If you decide that you do not want to get back with your ex partner you should have no problem getting over the break up. But I don’t think you are willing to let that relationship go, do you?
You need to set up a meeting with your ex to discuss your future. Apologise for anything that went wrong, whether it was your fault or not; and agree to put it in the past. Yes you need to resolve your issues but you don’t need to dwell on them.
Focus on the positives. What have you got going for you? Why should the two of you be together? Talk about the great times you have had, the history you share, the sexual attraction that burns between you and hopefully you will be celebrating getting back together very soon.
It may take a couple of meetings and a while to get back on track but it will be worth it. If you had a great relationship it is worth fighting for. Finding someone special to love who loves you in return isn’t easy and shouldn’t be given up lightly. Add to that a shared history, family and children and you will soon realise, if you haven’t already done so, that you belong together.
If there was a reason for your breakup, perhaps one of you had an affair; it doesn’t need to spell the end. Affairs always happen for a reason. Perhaps you were not paying your partner any or enough attention. Perhaps they felt taken for granted. Or it could be something as simple as too many drinks at the Christmas/office party. None of these make adultry right.
I know that it is not easy to accept your partner sleeping with someone else; but you can get over it. If you still love this person and want them in your life, go to couples counselling and see can the therapist help you both to work through your feelings. You may find that you cannot live with the deceit and betrayal and decide to split up after all. But you could also decide that by bringing all the problems into the open, you can resolve them and go forward with a much stronger relationship. You just need to approach the situation with an open mind.
Having someone you love in your life is far too important to let it go over something trivial or in some cases something very hurtful. So forget about trying to improve the “breakup recovery” and concentrate on getting your partnership back on track.
Nov 12 2009
Marital Problems… Sexual Technques? Episode 2
Marital Problems
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Nov 11 2009
About Love
About Love and Togetherness
Relationship advice on soul level attraction by Kim and Steve Cooper hosts of ‘The Love Safety Net’. Kim and Steve saved their marriage from narcissism and now help others with relationship advice on how to save a marriage from narcissistic abuse. For more info visit www.narcissismhelp.com
Nov 09 2009
How To Save Your Marriage Today
How To Save Your Marriage Today
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Oct 01 2009
Want To Get Back With Your Ex?
"The Ultimate Relationship Guide"
Tips and advice on how to get back with your ex are everywhere these days.
But how do you know what works and what will send your ex running even further away?
First trust your own instincts. You and you alone know both yourself and this former lover. Why did you break up? Was it just a silly argument or are you really incompatible on some level. Arguments about silly things are often a sign of a more deep rooted problem so dont just ignore it. If you were constantly fighting about the same small things, chances are there is some other issue affecting your relationship. You need to deal with this issue as ignoring it will not make it go away.
Try asking your family and friends for their opinion on what makes you two a great couple. Also ask them for their insight into why you may have broken up – you may learn something new.
Try talking to your ex-lover. Arrange to meet up on neutral ground, preferably in a park or restaurant where there will be other people close by. Why? So that you both have to remain cool and not let your meeting turn into yet another shouting match.
Do not let your meeting descend into a trading insults session. Sure you may have to listen to some truths, which hit home, but do so gracefully. Your ex is probably only letting off steam. Tell your ex that you still love them and want to give your relationship another go. Ask them if they would be interested in trying again? Perhaps you could go to couple’s counselling together.
Apologise for your past behaviour and explain why you want them back in your life. You may have to work hard to convince them, particularly, if hurting them is something you do; on a regular basis. If this is the case, you need to ask yourself if you are sure that your ex is the right person for you. We don’t usually hurt the people we love, at least not on a consistent basis. It is difficult enough to keep romance alive in any relationship but if you are always hurting your partner,love dies very quickly.
When you meet your ex, remind them of all the great times you had together as a couple. Tell them that this time apart has given you plenty of time to decide what you want and it is definitely them. You are 100% sure that getting back together is the only result you are interested in. Stroke their ego. Let them know how attractive you find them and how much you want them but don’t go overboard. You do not want to scare them or appear desperate, even though that might be the case.
Be prepared for it to take some time to get your lover back. Tips and advice on how to get your ex back are all good and fine. However you are dealing with a human being, who may need time to see that getting back together; is a good plan.