How do I mend a broken heart and maybe win back my ex at the same time? I hear questions like this a lot. You need to remember three key facts.

First, you need to fell good about yourself. Feeling this way, not only enhances your own mental well being, but it actually enhances the way your ex feels about you as well. So, how do you do this?

Get out of the house. No couch potato behavior for you. Be with your friends, Do things you like to do whether it is going to movies or shows, trips to the mall, a round of golf or a trip to the bowling alley. Keep up your physical appearance, your grooming and dress standards. Regardless of whatever else happens, you will feel better for simply making sure you stay active and involved, you have taken a big step towards mending a broken heart.

Second, at this point is do not contact your ex. You both need space. If winning your ex back is your goal, you need them to miss you. Staying away helps accomplish that, being clingy works against it. Staying away also gives you the time to reflect on just what went wrong and to seriously consider if you want the relationship rekindled. Again, staying away, and doing things that enhance your own well being will not only make you feel better, but will also make you more attractive to everybody else, your ex included.

Third, once your head is clear and you are feeling good about yourself, you can start to think about renewing contact with your ex. It is good to have a plan in place before you do this, one that shows you how to consider all of your possible options, and follows a cohesive strategy aimed at getting your ex back.

Try the  5 hints and tips below if you want to get back  with your ex husband.

This is of course a huge step and one which I am sure you have agonised over.

Think about the reasons why you split up in the first place. Unless these have been resolved you do not stand much chance of making a success of your relationship the second time around.

You may feel it was a mistake to end your marriage and getting back together may be the right thing for you both.

1) Men hate small talk. Well at least most men do. They cannot understand why some women feel the need to talk about every tiny detail of a problem. This is how women work problems out BUT Men usually just see the bigger picture and if you force them to talk in detail, they will probably pull the shutters down. So do be careful with this.

2) When men say they are sorry and mean it, they expect to be forgiven. End Of Story! Most men are fairly straight forward. They are big enough to admit when they make a mistake, apologise and move on. So do yourself a favour and accept they are sorry and let it go. Obviously this does not apply if they were physically or mentally abusive. Please quickly get yourself out of a situation like that. Because in most cases the man’s behaviour will only worsen. No one has the right to control another person. 

3) Don’t assume that your and ex husband knows  that you want him back. Men as a rule are useless at reading signals. They may make better map readers but when it comes to human nature, they often need to be told exactly what you want. This applies just as much inside the bedroom as in the rest of your relationship.

4) Act like the interesting  individual that you ARE . Go and enjoy separate interests.  Yes – Have a life of your own too. Just because you are part of a couple; does not mean that you cannot do some things separately.  While mutual interests are a great foundation for any relationship, so to is having the ability to talk about different things. You will  enjoy  life much more if you  leave the house and do something interesting.

5) If you do succeed in getting back together with your ex , don’t let the relationship settle back to the way things were again. REMEMBER how intolerable that was. Arrange date nights where it is just the two of you. If you cannot afford a sitter, put the kids to bed and then make an effort to dress up. Take the phone off the hook and spend the night  in each others company.Make a point of building great memories that you can both share .

I hope the above hints and tips are helpful.And getting back  with your ex husband becomes the best move you ever made.

If you know the warning signs of a break up; you will be better able to avoid splitting from your Partner.

All relationships are different but there are usually similar symptoms of trouble to look out for:

• 1) Your partner is ignoring you.

Now I don’t mean that they are not talking to you. Ignoring someone, is where you lose interest in that person and never ask them how they are, what they are feeling or even where they were? If you are like two ships that pass in the night, your love life may need a little work.

Stop to think why they could be ignoring you? Have you forgotten their birthday or some other special event? Have you been less than loving lately? Are they feeling neglected? People usually react over something they feel has happened. This could just be their perception but as they are your lover and you should be trying to keep them happy, you need to understand their point of view. 

So why not surprise them with a nice meal and sit them down and ask them what is going on? Why are they grumpy, although I would probably phrase that question a little better! It could be that they are preoccupied with a problem totally outside your relationship. Communication between couples is not always what it should be; so try talking. Who knows where it may lead?

• 2) Your partner doesn’t want to see you or go out with you.

If your lover suddenly becomes unavailable and too busy to see you, the red warning light should go on. There is a reason why they are avoiding you and you need to find out what that is. Don’t be a doormat or perhaps I should say bedmat. There is no excuse, for not facing your boyfriend or girlfriend, to find out why they think it is acceptable to behave like this.  Whatever you do, do not ignore these signals or you could find yourself in receipt of a break up letter.

• 3) Your partner is distant in the bedroom

While sex is only a three letter word, it can cause huge problems. Just ask any couple who has been together a long time.   Sometimes your family or life’s issues can get in the way of your lovemaking. It is also a well known fact, that the initial burst of animal attraction usually doesn’t last, so not making love every night is quite normal. What is not normal is not being intimate for months on end. Couples are held together by shared emotions and feelings.  So don’t underestimate the power of a cuddle.

You should know when your partner is happy and when he or she isn’t. Sometimes their mood will have nothing to do with your actions; but often it is an indication of trouble brewing. Pay attention and look out for the above warnings signs of a break up. Otherwise you could find yourself newly single and wondering what happened!

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